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Remember Your Value!

Registered Date December 06, 2016 Read 280
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Kristine Joy M. Martinez, Scranton Scholar of Trinity University of Asia in Philippines

“She is more precious than jewels and nothing you desire can compare with her”  -  Proverbs 3:15
This verse clearly states that women regardless of her stand in life, rich or poor, jobless or with a job, single or married, as long as she has everything to be a woman, should be valued. Back then, women are often considered as slaves, housewives whose duty is just to serve their family.  Well, it isn’t easy to change tradition overnight. Women from the past suffered from violence, they have their mouth for them to speak but words wouldn’t come out because the society won’t allow them to. Their voices left unheard, their eyes remain shut and even their body became paralyzed.

Thanks to the shifts in labor force and movement which led to changes in the attitudes of women at work, allowing for the revolution which resulted in equal opportunity and rights to career and even in politics irrespective of gender. When it comes to matters regarding sexuality, women have the right to control over and decide freely. It is said that equal relationships between men and women includes full respect for the integrity of the person, it requires mutual respect, consent and shared responsibility for sexual behavior and its consequences.


Women’s rights are clearly defined in the law, even on textbooks we can see and appreciate how safe and reassuring it is and how much they value us, women. We can’t deny the fact that it is perfectly written, but the question is, do they value us as much as the book values us? Those written law can defend us in due process but does the law enforcers ready to protect and save us from violence and impending doom?


I’m in my 20’s, no boyfriend since birth. The reason would be that almost all guys who would approach me wanted to have sex first. I know being liberated is “in” in today’s society, I’m not against it but I’d say I’m not following today’s trend. We can’t say yes to everything. Women have a weak spot and even weak-hearted but that doesn’t give permission to the opposite sex to abuse and use their power on us. We may fall from their trap and even be tempted sometimes.  Just because we are a woman, we can let them. Think twice, if he’s not respecting you today, he’s not going to respect you tomorrow or even in the future. A woman deserves the respect that a man receives too. No more, no less. And besides, not having a boyfriend doesn’t make you less of a woman. In addition to, what help me overcome such tempting situation was the guilt feelings and the consequences afterwards. Regret comes after, learn how to say no. Another important factor would be the love that you receive from your family. If you aren’t receiving the love from them, you are prone to seeking love from others which can lead you not into genuine love but to sexual relationships and can eventually lead into violence.


Violence against Women is a worldwide phenomenon.  It comes in different forms. Whatever that is, violence will always be violence. Due to the sensitivity of the issues and its impact on women and their families, many cases of violence against women often go unreported. Where there are no mechanisms and infrastructure for relief and assistance, victim are simply left to suffer their fate.


None of us can change the world by ourselves, but with efforts from each and every one of us doing a little can make a real difference. Know your value. Educate yourself. Know your rights. Embrace them. Support organizations. Join them. Be an advocate. Speak out. Spread awareness.  Don’t lose hope. We should never give up because God doesn’t give up on us.